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June 20, 2011

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Tania @ Larger Family Life

It doesn't matter how old she gets you are never going to be ready for it.

Rosie Scribble

Oh no!

Cass@frugalfamily

I know exactly how you feel, my 8 year old is so grown up and independent most of the time. Sometimes I wish I could stop time and keep her at this age forever ;-)

Surprised Zoe

I look at my little three year ok'd in awe, wonder and fear.

Then I remember I'm nearly forty and still need my mum sometimes and I feel better!

Rosie Scribble

They change so much so quickly don't they? Eight definitely seems to be the start of a more 'grown-up' period I reckon.

Rosie Scribble

That does make me feel better. She'll still need me when she's all grown-up, just in a different way. Thank you :)

susie@newdaynewlesson

My soldier boy who is almost 21 stills needs me...for laundry, food, car.... But seriously he does-he calls, he talks to us. He will even occasionally hug me.

Now my 19 year old...hugs are torture for him.

di.b

You get out what you put in I like to think and you adore your little one so you'll not lose her and she will always need you, but in different ways! My eldest (29) still phones,emails or texts almost every day and I know how much he still needs us in his life even though he is now happily married!!

di.b

You get out what you put in I like to think and you adore your little one so you'll not lose her and she will always need you, but in different ways! My eldest (29) still phones,emails or texts almost every day and I know how much he still needs us in his life even though he is now happily married!!

Rosie Scribble

I think you do get out what you out in, and yes, she will always need me but in different ways, I agree. I like the idea of her being happily married and keeping in contact like your eldest, although I am getting ahead of myself as she is only 7, but many of these comments have been reassuring.

Diney

That comment was from me not di.b. :0)

Rosie Scribble

Ah yes, I know boys much older than that who still benefit from a laundry service at times! As long as she calls and talks to me and occasionally takes me on holiday (that might be asking a bit much), I'll be fine!

Rosie Scribble

Thanks Diney :)

jfb57

You'll never be ready for it & that's how it should be. Although she is gaining her independence every day, she will always have that link & 'come back' at regular intervals (& not just to use the washing machine!) x

Tara

Oh I hear you Rosie. My son is 8 and I'm feeling that too. I WANT to do everything for him because I'm his mum and it's in my nature to help him, but I know it's not doing him any favours for the future.
Bloody tough though eh? x

Midlife Singlemum

I'm ready for it and DD is only 2 1/2. On reflection - maybe it is because she is 2 1/2?

Josie

Since it's just been me and Kai I've been amazed and humbled at how much our relationship has grown. Even now I get the team thing, that weird kind of inter-dependence.

And as much as I'm trying to teach him about resilience and independence, as much as I'm HAVING to teach him, I'm going to struggle to let go too, when the time comes. Love to you and your beautiful girl.

x

If I Could Escape

Oh, I know what you mean. It doesn't get any easier the older they get. x *sobs*

Rosie Scribble

You're right Julia. I'm not losing her really, as it feels at times, we're just entered a new, different, independent stage. She'll still come back, as you say. I'll be buying her a washing machine when she does eventually leave home though!

Rosie Scribble

It is tough, you're right. We want them to be confident and independent so they can make their own decisions without us. That's what it's all about, but when they suddenly do that and they really don't need your help you can feel a little bit lost. I think with the loss of that role in their lives comes a new one as they enter a new stage. Who knows what they'll be needing from us next but thankfully it's something. xx

Rosie Scribble

Ooh, toddlers can be very hard work and I think, from reading your posts, that DD is quite confident. There are bound to be many battles but it gets a lot easier and then the challenges are slightly different. So hang in there!

Rosie Scribble

You know exactly where I'm coming from Josie. It's an amazingly strong relationship that develops when there are just the two of you. I would call it a type of inter-dependence, yes. So when they suddenly start moving away from that and needing you less, it is hard. I think, for us, it's just the start of a new phase in our relationship. Much love to you and your little boy too. xx

Rosie Scribble

Oh no. I think I'll just have to go out and join a girl band or something to fill the void. Want to join me?

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